Deflection

I just listened to the end of the book, Masters of the Air, by Donald L. Miller, and he made a statement that caught me off guard about how the bombing for those that were in the bunkers during the bombing. He stated evidence from research after WWII that those traumatized in the bunkers never got over the feelings that they had while the bombs were exploding over them. This comment leads to many of our daily feelings.

For those that have been caught up in a major or a few traumatic events, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), or those that have lived through years of traumatic events, Complex PTSD, they may feel that they will out grow the trauma, or they might say that they were bruised by the trauma, but will get through it. The truth, accounting to research, show that people will never get over it. Every time a person is placed back in the same atmosphere as the waiting for the bombing to start, they will react the same way. The feelings never go away.

As for someone that grows up with a narcissist around them, the feelings of being insecure will last a lifetime. They receive traumatic blows from the narcissist from daily to weekly, depending on the mood of the narcissist. There is noway that a child can prepare for the abuse. Even if the narcissist is in a good mood for a week and the child lets down their guard, the abuse even hurts deeper.

As the child gets older, they become somber, and people can see it in their eyes. They no longer take ricks, talk to others, and get involved in things. If they to take intuitive, the narcissist will flatten them. The narcissist has to be in full control of their lives. As for young adults, it is hard for them to leave this environment. The narcissist does not want people to know that what has been going on in the home, and the young adults does not know any other life.

As young adults/adults start to live their life, they might think that they have been bruised and that they will get over it in time, The real point is that they are always waiting for someone to come down on them. It is kind of a frustrating live to live..

The only way to heal from the PTSD and complex PTSD is through therapy. Since each person perceives that traumatic events differently, the same therapy will not work for each traumatized person. The VA uses residential rehabilitation treatment where the traumatized person can get individual treatment. As for complex PTSD, the traumatized person may go through several therapist in order to find healing, since a narcissist will traumatize their victims from many different advantageous areas. For the victims to get through their traumatic experience/experiences, it takes work by the traumatized person.

It does not make any difference if it is PTSD or complex PTSD, the feelings are the same, if your are in a bunker waiting for the bombs to drop or at home waiting for the narcissist to come down on you. Just waiting for the devastating event tp happen in their lives. This is why therapy is so important for the traumatized person to get through these traumatic feelings.

Roger