Deflection

When we think of a web, we often think of a black widow spider’s web that seems to cling to everything, since the web is there to bring in food for, but does catch other things than its food, and their web seems to be frustrating for us humans when we are caught in it from time to time. As for the narcissist, they also make their invisible web. If someone comes in contact with a narcissist, they will experience their web. As for those that get caught in the web, they will experience frustration; but, as for those that brush by the web, they probably will never be aware of the narcissist. The webs of both the black widow spider and the narcissist are similar for those getting caught in the web.

Most narcissist come across as they are your best friend, since they do go through many relationship. Most of the self help for those that are afflicted by a narcissist is for a person that has been abused by their partner in a relationship. Therefore, after a person is rejected by their partner, they move on to the next person. This goes back to the old saying: a person that is extremely difficult to know is the one that you will have the best relationship with through the years of life. By listening to the professionals, the best way to get out of the net is to leave the relationship.

For families that have a narcissist parent, life is nothing but frustrating, since it is impossible to get out of the net. The insecurity of a narcissist can vary by the hour depending on what is going on in the life of a narcissist. When a narcissist is feeling that they are in a similar as when they were growing up, things were going wrong and/or stress that comes from everyday live, like at home or work, the narcissist will be on a war path and it is best to get out of their way, but the problem is know what has triggered the narcissist. However, when a narcissist feels relaxed, the family members are walking around on egg shells waiting for the aggression to happen. As for some of the family members, they try to live as if the aggression is not going to happen.

When a person has to come in contact with a narcissist, as stated above, they come in not knowing that the person is a narcissist. After some time, the person will start to notice that something is unusual with the person, and do not understand the flare ups for no reason at all that they are receiving. There are many ways that these relationships will evolve, but keep in mind that most people do not live their life around a narcissist. The best thing to happen is that the person finds away to keep away from a narcissist. As for others will get into the relationship knowing something is wrong and leave the relationship. The problem is when a person has to be around a narcissist socially or at work. If the issues become so great that the two parties cannot function, then the relationship will have to end. But, if the person has to be with a narcissist, the person will have to find coping mechanisms and/or psychological help. However, even with the psychological help, the person will badly bruised and it will take years to work out the bruising from a narcissist web. Sooner or later the relationship with the narcissist will have to end, since there is no other recourse for dealing with a narcissist.

The major issue with a narcissist is that they are insecure, with the insecurity coming from their childhood. Since they were probably treated poorly by their parent, or parents, this brings out their insecurities. By imagining that a parent, or parents, will not allow the child to express their feeling, they ball all their feelings inside of themselves. Then, when a narcissist can relive their pain, it comes out onto others, and, if they can, they will not stop until the person that their are afflicting feels their pain. The biggest problem, since they are feeling so insecure, is that a narcissist will not know that they are hurting others. Age will probably relinquish their pain that a narcissist feels, but usually not until they are in their senior years.

The term word salad has been a common way to describe the way that a narcissist will afflicted others. When it comes to trying to make a point with a narcissist, they have to win at all cost, so they will be coming at the person with word salad. If a person is going to make a point with a narcissist, the point will never be made, since the narcissist will interrupt the conversation and use word salad to distort the points that are trying to be made. There is no point in trying to make a point with a narcissist, with the best option not to engage with the narcissist to begin with on any topic. By trying to make points with them, they have you caught in their web when you should be running away, even family.

The world of a narcissist is small. With there insecurities, it is like at some point in their life they have stopped learning. They protect themselves of there short fall of knowledges by using arrogance as a facade. Once again, they use word salad to prevent anyone from understand that they have poor knowledge. There emotional immature that lashes out every once in a while also shows that their world is small. When an adult has a temper tantrum, it becomes obvious that the narcissist has not matured enough to live in the adult world. As a person tries to teach the narcissist human values, the narcissist has you caught in their web.

The narcissist web, like the black widow spider, it touches everyone that comes into contact with them. Even those that only know the narcissist by name, will probably feel their facade. As for those that have been forced into a relationship with them, there will be emotional bruising, and may need help to massage the bruising. If there is any good about a narcissist, it is that they will probably not take the time to get educated to make a difference in the world. As for the educated, they will see that their facade is skin deep and they will move on without the narcissist. When it comes to narcissism, there personality disorder can be more difficult to deal with than any other mental illness.

Roger