Deflection

After spending time around narcissists, it becomes clear that they are not happy. When their insecurities are really high, there is no time to tell a joke, to laugh at something funny, or even share a smile. It is all intense feelings coming at the people that they can attack to make them feel secure.

Of course, a person feeling insecure has no direction in there in the path that they are taking, since they just want to feel comfortable in the their world. (I use the phase here “their world,” since the definition of a narcissist is that they live in their own world. And, if any one takes a look at their world, it is small, since they have restricted the size of their world with their insecurities.). They will take the path of least resistance to obtain their feeling of security. So, it is a self fulfilling prophecy, since there is no way for them to ever fulfill their insecurities; therefore, they just keep attacking people trying to get that secure feeling. Therefore, without a narcissist not getting a secure feeling, it is almost impossible for them to be happy.

This paragraph could easily be expanded into an essay, so I will keep these points brief. As people are around a narcissist, the question of the height of their intelligence often comes up, and it is a good question. As for the highly intelligent people, they are total curious about everything, and they would find it impossible to be a narcissist, since the narcissist is confined to their would. But, as for the remainder of the population, they can easily become a narcissist, and they can become unhappy in the world that they are living in through out their lives. One has to remember that college graduates are usually average and above in intelligence, so they can become narcissist.

Narcissist are focused on obtaining feelings of security by attacking those of value, since it make no sense to attack people with the same values. Or, maybe, a better way of looking at this is that they will attack the people that they are jealous of in their lives and they to bring them down to their level. This jealousy can come from intelligence, looks, accomplishments, personal values, family characteristics, and the list goes on and on, while they are trying to get an impossible feeling of security.

To laugh, grin, or smile, it is just not there with a narcissist, since they are in a desperate state of mind looking for security. Since I have tried to visualize there state of mind, this is the best that I can do: they are in a long dark tunnel under construction and the lights go out, now they are desperate to get out of the tunnel, and they are moving everything out of these way, including running over others. To be frank, when a person is in a stated of panic, there is no room for humor.

These personality disorders run deep. As we walk through life, there are people that are not happy for many reasons. But, as for these narcissist, they are not only not happy but there are trying to get you to feel their pain. As for an empath, it is easy for them to get roped in the narcissist trap of being in emotional pain and not happy. But, as we walk through life, we have to remember that there are people out there trying to take advantage of us.