Deflection

I have heard is stated may times: dementia is very hard on the adult children of a parent diagnosed with dementia. When the adult children thinks about their parent stricken with dementia, they still remember their parent a young, vibrant, caring, and cognitive. But, when an other person sees a dementia person, they see an elderly person demented with memory loss, probably a hearing loss, social loss, surrounds of self loss (they do not recognize their own home), and cognitive loss. As for the adult children, they often go through a pre mourning for their parent, and this is understandable, since they had everything in their environment set up for their exact specifications when they were cognitive. 

As with other physical diseases, like polio, it seems like there should be a cure and everyone can get on with life. But there is no cure for dementia. As plaque builds up between the brain and skill, folds from in the brain as it shrinks, and the spinal fluid does not flow through the brain as it did, the brain is deteriorating. As for the adult children, they can only watch, as their parent slips away from them through the months of decline.

Dementia is a horrible disease, and it put the family through nothing but a living torture. If the dementia person does not have a long term health insurance policy, the disease will take everything that the person worked for in their lives, and the adult children will have to sell everything that the person owns to pay for the expenses. Once the all of the property is gone, then Medicaid will cover the expenses until death, making Medicaid is no friend to the adult children of parents with dementia. 

Until a cure is found for dementia, this disease will tear siblings apart. It brings out the worst in siblings over simple disputes. Even identical twins will see things more the same than other any other couple, but they also see their worlds apart from each other, since everyone perceives their experiences differently. Unfortunately, for an outside person looking into the life of a person dementia, they have no idea on what the person was like when they were young and what the family is going through. The only hope for families is a cure for this horrible disease.